Cancer is a problem that has surpassed many diseases in the world today.

Just as there may be more accidents in traffic due to vehicles driven fast and without following the rules, cancer also appears more frequently every day.

To stay healthy, look ahead first. Just as you need to pay attention to the road to avoid an accident, concentrate on your life and look ahead to stay healthy. Don't let anything distract you...

When I tell you to look ahead first to stay healthy, I mean concentrate on life, yourself, what you experience, what you share, your happiness and peace. We share our lives with many people. When we are born, we live with our parents, our siblings, as we grow up, we live with our school friends, then our colleagues, our spouse and our children. It is very important for us to know that the first 3-6 years when our character is formed is also where all the information given to us is placed in our minds by our parents, just like a computer program.

This situation constitutes the topic of breast diseases and stress in our Tuesday conversations.

From the perspective of healthcare professionals, the connection between body and mind is generally very difficult to understand because it goes back to ancient times and deep. However, it should not be forgotten that people, regardless of their health problems or how peaceful, happy and healthy they are, continue to communicate with the people in the environments where they were born, raised, educated, worked and communicated. He experiences traumas and diseases due to his learned helplessness that settled in his mind in the past. The impact of these programmings, which are skillfully placed deep in the mind during the person's upbringing rather than trauma, with stress and health, is often overlooked.

In the future, we will talk more about Spirit-Body Integrity and Learned Helplessness in Thursday conversations.

Learned helplessness created by programs ingrained in our minds in childhood is the starting point of hidden stresses that we are not aware of and that may cause diseases in the future. Learned helplessness, which replaces preferences, continues to maintain its vitality as on the first day, regardless of age. It forms the cornerstone of communication with the people we share our lives with. For example, a child who accepts the conditioning given to him in his childhood due to conditional love, just as he sticks to the behavior patterns his mother wants in order not to be deprived of his mother's love, continues to live his life in similar behavioral patterns.

Learned helplessness created by programs ingrained in our minds in childhood is the starting point of hidden stresses that we are not aware of and that may cause diseases in the future. Learned helplessness, which replaces preferences, continues to maintain its vitality as on the first day, regardless of age. It forms the cornerstone of communication with the people we share our lives with. For example, a child who accepts the conditioning given to him in his childhood due to conditional love, just as he sticks to the behavior patterns his mother wants in order not to be deprived of his mother's love, continues to live his life in similar behavioral patterns.

Think of it like a car that you drive your life. Living your life the way people want in order to gain acceptance is like going where other people want you to go, even though you have the steering wheel in your hands. The person confuses being accepted with being loved. Because of the hidden stress brought on by the fear of not being accepted, he has actually secretly surrendered control of his life to other people. He cannot concentrate on his own goal and lives his life unhappy and careless. If the disease is an accident, this driver will have many accidents. That's why we say; Concentrate on your road and look ahead to avoid unnecessary accidents!

Remember that you are at the wheel of life. Control your aim in the direction you want to go. Don't let anything distract you, stay healthy.

Cüneyt Tuğrul MD General Surgeon